Think before you speak

Think before you speak I’m sure at one time or another you’ve been put in your place because of something you said that wasn’t well received and the words “think before you speak” were left ringing in your ears.

We might walk away from an experience with our tail between our legs feeling a bit remorseful for hurting someone’s feelings but do you ever really take the time to understand what “think before you speak” truly means?

How conscious are you of the words that you speak?

For many years I was the type of person who would say whatever was on my mind. I didn’t pay much attention to what words I used as long as I got my message out. Along the way I hurt a lot of people because I didn’t take the time to consider their feelings or their situation before blurting out what I needed to say. It took maturity and self-awareness for me to realize that words are powerful. Now I am conscious of how I speak and strive to use my words wisely so that I feel confident in creating the connection and impression I’m looking for. Of course there are still times when I stumble and let my emotions take over and I say things that I regret later but for the most part, I’m aware.

There are consequences in everything we say, whether our intentions is to have a positive or negative result. In any situation, we need to be mindful of what we say because words heal or hurt, build up or tear down, comfort or cause pain.

Usually, when we think about hurting someone, we generally think of physical violence but some of the greatest damage that we can do to each other are through words of anger, jealousy and resentment. The sad reality is that its usually directed at the ones we love the most. The power behind using cruel words can cut so deep that they get absorbed in our hearts, mind and soul and can stay there forever.

So the next time you are about to utter a harsh word to a loved one or a friend – pause for a few moments, think about what you are about to say and remember, its not the words, but the intentions we have behind them.